Sometimes breastfeeding lactivists (aka breastfeeding nazis) really piss me off. They seem to think that its all or nothing with breastfeeding, when in reality, we need to support all mothers--especially those who try & struggle with nursing. I saw a tweet on twitter tonight that really pissed me off stating, "Dear @tommeetippeeUS: The claim that ur "bottles r designed r b the closest thing r natural #bfing" violates the WHO Code". This just really got me angry. While I understand the WHO code's purpose (especially in poor/3rd world countries), I think some of these ladies are stretching a bit far for their own agendas. Don't they ever think that maybe some women in the world can't physically produce enough milk to make our babies survive & just maybe said mom's use pumps & bottles shaped like mom's breast to keep that breastfeeding dream (and baby) alive as long as possible?! What if there were no pumps (because afterall, they're not actually supporting breastfeeding but rather giving baby breastmilk) & only regular bottles to cause nipple confusion (which is so NOT a myth btw).
My girls would've never had a chance if it wasn't for a pump & something to supplement them with. I physically did not have enough dense milk-making tissue to ever satisfy either of them. Well, technically I did when Maddy was born premmaturely, but seeing as she only got enough from me when she was still under 4lbs isn't really a good enough example--she outgrew my supply before she came home at still under 5lbs. I thought I was a bad mother because of how WIC, LLL, etc. told me how every mother can make milk for their babies & I will as long as I keep doing "suchandsuch". What most of them (and the bajillion books/websites/articles) leave out is that while mothers CAN lactate, we don't all physically produce enough to nourish our baby & keep them alive. I'm grateful I had a wonderful lactation consultant in the NICU who understood how hard I tried & finally diagnosed me with hypoplasia of the breast (not enough proper tissue growth). You better believe I'm going to do everything I can to nurse Newbie. I've found a new wealth of information and new herbs/different medicines to try once he/she arrives, but I'm not going to be depressed if I can't do it exclusively or as long as I want to. When my milk dries up, I will be ok with knowing I gave Newbie the best chance I could (though I still hope my body suddenly changes & I get to nurse him/her for a loooong time).
I hope to encourage all mothers to try nursing their babies--give it their all & don't be afraid to ask for help or suggestions. I have tons of resources--books, dvds, articles, pamplets, herbs, pumps, etc.--you name it, I have it! I am not a nazi & completely understand giving bottles is also ok. I am from the frame of mind that as long as you try to give your baby the best start possible, you're a success--no matter how much or how little they actually received. I wish I had support like me when I first tried nursing Sophie 3 years ago. I wouldn't have been on the verge of ppd probably & would not have been so hard on myself for being a "failure". I am all about education, love, and support, but please stop seeing something most likely designed to help keep breastfeeding going & turn it into a problem. Ok, off of my soapbox now.
6 days ago